Text like James Bond

Some text messages we love getting, other text messages we can’t wait to delete. I was just listening to this guy on instagram, @textingprince.  I must say, he had it down.  He said “Just pretend you are James Bond.”  I love that!

James Bond wouldn’t go overboard, he wouldn’t overload you with emoji’s, he would be calm and cool yet sexy and thoughtful.

Take your time to respond.  Don’t start firing texts at her before she is comfortable with you.  Nothing worse then a guy who is blowing up your phone like he has no life.

How many times have you sent a text message — you hear the swoosh, and you think “Crap! I didn’t mean to send that!”

I’ve been there. Had a few wines, was a bit miffed at my guy, sent a text without thinking it through, and then was like “FCK, why did I do that?”

My mother says “if you write things down, they never go away.” How true it is!  That being said, be careful about what you say and how you say it. Whether you’re in love or pissed, take a minute and think before you send.


  1. “Good morning” — You think it’s generic, right? Well, it is! But every guy I’ve been into has sent me good morning text messages. He started my day with him on my mind. It’s kinda cool if you can add the pet name — “hey baby” or “good morning lover,” “morning sexy” — it’s a little corny, but we like it.
  1. “I had a great time” — If indeed you had a good time — tell her! Open up the channels!
  1. “Thinking of you” — This is the best! It can be said a frickin’ gazillion times and we don’t get sick of hearing it! Keep it comin’!
  1. “Miss you” — Not something you want to say in the beginning of the ball game. But as time marches on, let down your guard and she will, too. You’ll know when the time is right to say this — have no fear!
  1. “I love you” — Deep deep deep! If you’re genuine and you think the feeling is mutual, go for it! 3 words every girl wants to hear and never gets sick of.
  1. “How was your day?” — Omg! It’s the “he is so considerate to ask me this.” Yes, be the guy who cares more about your girl then yourself. This message will get you places.
  1. “I’m sorry” – Awwww… So nice when a guy isn’t too proud to say he’s sorry. Integrity and truth are a great foundation.

Take Away —  Keep it simple and listen to her words.  It’s a bonus when a guy is considerate.  ex. “How’s your mom feeling ?”  , “How did school go?” , “How was your job interview ?”, “Did you find the shoes you were looking for?”




Fido the Chic Magnet

Wanna meet a girl, have difficulty talking to girls, want a companion that will think you are a stud no matter what, looking for unconditional love or a partner who will help keep you in shape……. GET A DOG!!!!  Don’t let my cat logo fool you.  I’m an avid dog lover!!  Just so happens that cats are a bit sexier on a logo then dogs.  I’ve always had a dog and always will.  If you haven’t owned a dog, it will change your life.  I can’t tell you how many guys I met on the beach, walking down the street, at the dog park…… with my dog.  As a dog owner, conversation with other dog owners is easy and natural. Besides meeting fellow dog owners, you find girls will gravitate to you just to say ” hi” to your dog.  No lie.  Girls love dogs, cats and horses and since you can’t really walk a cat or horse down the street, your best bet is a dog.  In order to be a dog owner, you only need 3 things:

1.  time to walk

2. funds for food and vet bills


If you are thinking about buying a dog, rescuing from your local animal shelter is a great inexpensive option.  Before you go out hunting, check out this article on dog breeds for every type guy.















X Marks the G-Spot

By Lauren Katulka

We’ve all heard that pleasuring her G-spot is the key to driving her wild, but this magic button is still a mystery for many men. Wonder about this enigmatic part of female anatomy no more! We’ve got all the answers to your burning G-spot questions.

What Is It?

The G-spot, named after Ernst Gräfenberg, the German gynaecologist who discovered it, is a small area of tissue inside the vagina. Stimulating the G-spot can give her powerful orgasms and even make her gush like a porn star!

Where Is It?

The G-spot is a couple inches up the front vaginal wall, between the vagina’s opening and the urethra. You’ll know you’ve found it when you feel a rough, walnut-textured spot.

Doggy-style sex and some sex toys can stimulate the G-spot, but since it’s tucked away it’s easiest to find with your fingers. When she’s lying on her back, slowly insert a finger into her vagina, with your palm facing up. Once it’s inside, curl your finger as if you’re signalling for someone to come over to you or trying to touch her belly button from the inside.

What Does It Like?

The G-spot swells up when she’s aroused, so it’s easiest to find when she’s already turned on. Foreplay is key!

Just as every woman is different, so is every G-spot, so pay attention to her cues. Start slowly and softly. You’re not searching for spare change between your couch cushions! Then try different pressures and speeds as you stroke the G-spot in a rhythmic motion. Lightly pressing on her belly can make the sensations even more intense. Listen to what she says, how she moans, how she breathes, and what her body does to learn whether you’re on the right track.

Now you know all about the G-spot, what are you waiting for? It’s time to put your newfound knowledge into practice!

The Online Guy Who Caught My Eye

Yes, I did promise to tell about my first online date. Why is it so much easier to tell horror stories? I’ve been wrestling with how to tell this story for a week now. I suppose the beginning would be a good start.

After over 150 messages, and a handful of connections back, what caught my attention with this guy was a comment he made on his profile. He wrote, “If your dog sleeps in your bed, I won’t be.”  Witty, Confident, Cute.  Being that I have a 110 lb Doberman who does sleep on my bed, I responded “My 110 lb Dobie or a guy?  That’s a tough one.”  His answer couldn’t have been better, he said “I’m 235 lbs, bigger dog wins.”  What a great frickin’ answer!

Here’s a guy who is clearly very self assured and big! I LOVE THAT! I sent him my number, and we started texting back and forth. He didn’t write long messages, but said enough to keep me wanting more.

I found out that he’s divorced,  lives at the beach and is very into water sports.  He has a boat, is an avid kite surfer, basically loves anything having to do with the ocean. So far, he seems extremely cool.

My home is 3 hours from his his. Distance is a bit of an issue, but what the heck,  it might be fate. (Since he’s into waves, I’m going to refer to him as “Bo” – the name “Bo” means wave).

Bo lives very close to Assateague Island, MD where the wild horses roam free. (Note: Going to Assateague has always been a childhood dream of mine.) After 2 weeks of texting, Bo invited me to visit. Come visit? Me? Me who has never been on one online date, go visit a guy I never met?

At this point I hadn’t even spoke to him on the phone. By the way, girls like to talk on the phone. We like to hear a guy’s voice. I think you can get a good idea of what someone is like from talking on the phone. If he happens to have a sexy voice, forget about it. My partner Elaine said “Tell him to call you.” I did just that, and within the hour, he called. His deep, masculine voice stimulated a feeling inside me that I have not felt in years.

Now, I’m really in trouble.  At this point, I’m considering a road trip.  What do you think? Should I go meet Bo?

Is Her Starbucks card for Ashley Madison?

Many things can cause a person to have an affair. It can range from a momentary lapse in judgment, drugs or alcohol,  addiction, or a plain ole calculated deceit.

I just read that AshleyMadison.com, the premier destination for married dating, affairs, hookups, and fantasy has over 52 million member accounts worldwide since 2002!!  And, did you know that members have the option of purchasing credits by trading in a gift card from places like Starbucks, Home Depot, Target, Best Buy, Walmart and more.  How crazy is that!?!

I know infidelity well.  My father had an affair when I was 16 years old and I regrettably had an affair many years ago. Affairs lead to one thing —-> PAIN!  If you think your partner is cheating or you recently found out they are having an affair, there is nothing more hurtful then going through the fact that you’ve been lied to.  If you are lucky enough to have never been subjected to an affair, my advice is to run if you think a relationship in your life could lead to something you will regret.  Or, if you’re not happy at home, take a break, tell your partner you need some time.  Be honest with your feelings.

The following are 6 different reasons why people cheat:

Self Seeking

This is when a person loves him or her self more than the person they are with. In a self seeking relationship, the person who broke faith basically doesn’t give a crap, or may deem them in some way less important. Basically this person is a narcissist. Self absorption, inability to connect with or care about others, and may seem emotionally hardened.  This person, feel entitled to their affair.


A manipulative person is skillful in influencing or controlling others for sexual gratification or power. This could be the boss who insists on late hours, personal attention, and/or eventually sexual favors in exchange for remaining employed, or for advancement.  Blackmail is not above this person’s grasp.


Infatuation, “puppy love,” or immediate sexual appeal is often based on emotional responses.  Infatuation is often extravagant passion or admiration that may be mistaken for love. A married spouse who is in a day-to-day relationship may mistake the attention of a third party for true love. However, infatuation usually does not last.


All affairs are painful, but the conflicted affair may be one of the hardest to bear. We define this as when someone is in love with one person but committed to another. An example might be a man who is married and has children, but the wife is so involved with the kids, she forgets her husband. He or she finds an intimate connection with someone who appreciates and responds to him or her and an affair begins.  Whatever the scenario, there is no denying the pain these relationships can bring.

Cyber Affair

Also called a virtual affair, this is one in which there is usually no direct sexual contact. It might be between a person and someone online, or it could take the form of phone sex, porn, chat rooms, or even a person who is incarcerated. The emotional involvement might be as strong as a sexual affair, and take up a great deal of time.  Quality time becomes less and less.

Pseudo Justified

In every type of affair, the person who is unfaithful may feel justified in the relationship. However, in this one, they may feel they deserve because the relationship meets a specific need. Some examples might be a wife whose husband travels, a husband whose wife is pregnant, anyone whose partner is unable or unwilling to meet a need in their life. ” If I don’t find it at home, I’ll find it somewhere else.”

For many, an affair is over quickly. It might “scratch an itch.” It might go on for years. Dealing with the aftermath is painful on both sides. Do you confess your wrongdoing? What do you do if you find out your spouse was unfaithful? Is it the first time this has happened, or the tenth? At what point do you leave an unfaithful partner? Does it matter why they were unfaithful?

All these questions and more are reasons why people on both sides might seek relationship coaching. Finding the right path and bringing back positive energy to your life is vital. Whatever side you are on, you can overcome obstacles, regain balance, maintain confidence, and find fulfillment.

As a Professional Life and Relationship coach, I give a 30 free consultation.  If you’re looking for advice, support or just a sounding board, please email me at :  lorraine@girlsunedited.com



What Happens in Vegas Gets Online

As you know, a few months ago I — for the first time — stepped on an online dating site. My mission was to check out profiles and profile pics so I could write about it with knowledge.  If you read my previous post  #1 Profile Mistake, my biggest takeaway was the horrendous profile shots of guys holding a cell phone looking in a mirror.

Fast forward, I ended up talking to a guy who lived in Vegas. First let me tell you, that what happens in Vegas doesn’t always stay in Vegas.  In this case, its ending up on my blog.

Nice guy, good looking, engaging personality, kids, seemed like a normal guy. Plan was the next time I came to visit my dad in Vegas, we would meet.  Trying to survive the desert heat, our date was scheduled for Saturday night. I got a phone call on Friday evening from Mr. Vegas. We chatted about this and that, he seemed respectful, even asked my son and I to his golf club. All seemed normal except for when the conversation progressed to anal bleaching. Anal bleaching? I thought I was pretty much up on things, but I guess I missed the anal bleaching train.  After a 20 minutes, we hung up  the phone with a meeting time and destination.

Ding! A text from Mr. Vegas. Low and behold what does he send? A frickin’ underwear selfie with a cell phone in the mirror! I couldn’t believe it. Here, this seemingly nice guy totally sabotaged himself. It was a deal breaker. As a somewhat mature woman, it made me feel like a piece of ass.

If I was already sleeping with him, and he sent me an undie shot (without the cellphone), casual and sexy, yes, it could definitely turn me on. His photo was tacky and classless. I immediately sent him a text saying “what makes you think I want to see you in your underwear?”  His answer: “Feeling lucky Punk” followed by “and you?” Come on, we all know Dirty Harry has better moves than that. And I could tell from the pic that he didn’t have a magnum in his pants, either.

I shut off my phone and went to bed.  When I woke up, I sent him a text cancelling our dinner. Bummer. He seemed like a nice guy. I was trying to keep open mind about online dating.  Although I had this major curve ball sent to me,  I think I’m going to give online dating one more chance. I’ve been talking to a guy from Maryland for a few weeks. I hate to say anything, but he seems amazing. I can’t let him go as of yet. So I’m driving to Maryland next week to meet him. Stay tuned.

A Gift to Please

By Melissa Monet

My first foray into sex toys was an introduction by a boyfriend. He wasn’t very subtle, he basically pulled out a flesh colored dildo and said “here, use this”. It was awful, smelled bad, and had a weird texture; it left me feeling blah. Back then there weren’t a lot of options, but luckily for us, the modern market is booming with a variety of gorgeous vibes and dildos that does the job and does it well.

Now before you go out and buy her a sex toy, remember that they are a personal choice. Women want efficiency, while you are probably looking for visual stimulation. So if you really want to watch your partner masturbate or want to give her something that really says you care, try one of these beauties.

When breaking the ice with a first time user, opt for a less obvious toy, something less phallic that only stimulates the clitoris. I recommend something small and dainty and non-phallic like the Je Joue. It’s the perfect example of a super-efficient, low key sex toy that doesn’t look like a toy. It’s perfect for a woman who is embarrassed someone might find it.

If she’s slightly more adventurous you can try a Lelo. Sleekly phallic, this is a great toy for women who aren’t afraid of insertion, but isn’t looking for something to fill her up. The Lelos have a variety of models and colors to choose from. This multi-speed vibrator is a favorite among women that want a vibe with class.

My personal favorite is The Bendable Touch by Evolve. I’m calling out this particular one because as a fan of the Rabbit Pearls of the past, this one is superior by far. The small, pliable phallus allows a woman to reach her G-spot without breaking an arm or wrist for the right angle, and the soft tongue feels amazing on the money spot. This is also completely waterproof, so once again, if it’s privacy she needs, this almost silent vibrator is perfect for the privacy of her shower.

Now if your lover is one of those “hard to cum” types, there is only ONE. The original Hitachi is a present from the Gods. Even the most difficult of orgasms cannot resist this mighty massager. Multi-speed and multi-purposed, this gigantic monstrosity doesn’t necessarily belay its real job, but it gets the job done. For someone sensitive, this is not the right toy, it’s just too fast and hard, but so many women I know rely on it because the stimulus overrides an overactive mind.

There are literally thousands of choices on the market; every color, shape and appendage, multi-tasking, dual controlled, tethered or battery operated, the world is her oyster…but isn’t it nice to know where to start?


Why He Took a Chance on Love

I was just scrolling through instagram and came across a great post.   It was so thoughtful and so spot on that I decided to post it on my blog.  What’s even more special about it, is that it was written by a guy.  It’s very rare to see a guy open up about his feelings.

” Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell her things that you’ve never shared with another soul and she absorbs everything you say and actually want to hear more.  You share hopes for the future.  When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell her about it, knowing that she will share in your excitement.  She is not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh when you make a fool of yourself.  Never does she hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough.  She builds you up rather then put you down.  She shows you things about yourself that make you feel special about yourself.  There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition.  There is only a quiet calmness when she is around. You can be yourself and not worry what she thinks because she loves you for who you are.  In her presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation.  You find quiet content in just having her nearby.  Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know this person is special to you.  Open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day, there is also a chance that you will experience love and joy that you never dreamed possible.”