Text like James Bond

Some text messages we love getting, other text messages we can’t wait to delete. I was just listening to this guy on instagram, @textingprince.  I must say, he had it down.  He said “Just pretend you are James Bond.”  I love that!

James Bond wouldn’t go overboard, he wouldn’t overload you with emoji’s, he would be calm and cool yet sexy and thoughtful.

Take your time to respond.  Don’t start firing texts at her before she is comfortable with you.  Nothing worse then a guy who is blowing up your phone like he has no life.

How many times have you sent a text message — you hear the swoosh, and you think “Crap! I didn’t mean to send that!”

I’ve been there. Had a few wines, was a bit miffed at my guy, sent a text without thinking it through, and then was like “FCK, why did I do that?”

My mother says “if you write things down, they never go away.” How true it is!  That being said, be careful about what you say and how you say it. Whether you’re in love or pissed, take a minute and think before you send.


  1. “Good morning” — You think it’s generic, right? Well, it is! But every guy I’ve been into has sent me good morning text messages. He started my day with him on my mind. It’s kinda cool if you can add the pet name — “hey baby” or “good morning lover,” “morning sexy” — it’s a little corny, but we like it.
  1. “I had a great time” — If indeed you had a good time — tell her! Open up the channels!
  1. “Thinking of you” — This is the best! It can be said a frickin’ gazillion times and we don’t get sick of hearing it! Keep it comin’!
  1. “Miss you” — Not something you want to say in the beginning of the ball game. But as time marches on, let down your guard and she will, too. You’ll know when the time is right to say this — have no fear!
  1. “I love you” — Deep deep deep! If you’re genuine and you think the feeling is mutual, go for it! 3 words every girl wants to hear and never gets sick of.
  1. “How was your day?” — Omg! It’s the “he is so considerate to ask me this.” Yes, be the guy who cares more about your girl then yourself. This message will get you places.
  1. “I’m sorry” – Awwww… So nice when a guy isn’t too proud to say he’s sorry. Integrity and truth are a great foundation.

Take Away —  Keep it simple and listen to her words.  It’s a bonus when a guy is considerate.  ex. “How’s your mom feeling ?”  , “How did school go?” , “How was your job interview ?”, “Did you find the shoes you were looking for?”




Fido the Chic Magnet

Wanna meet a girl, have difficulty talking to girls, want a companion that will think you are a stud no matter what, looking for unconditional love or a partner who will help keep you in shape……. GET A DOG!!!!  Don’t let my cat logo fool you.  I’m an avid dog lover!!  Just so happens that cats are a bit sexier on a logo then dogs.  I’ve always had a dog and always will.  If you haven’t owned a dog, it will change your life.  I can’t tell you how many guys I met on the beach, walking down the street, at the dog park…… with my dog.  As a dog owner, conversation with other dog owners is easy and natural. Besides meeting fellow dog owners, you find girls will gravitate to you just to say ” hi” to your dog.  No lie.  Girls love dogs, cats and horses and since you can’t really walk a cat or horse down the street, your best bet is a dog.  In order to be a dog owner, you only need 3 things:

1.  time to walk

2. funds for food and vet bills


If you are thinking about buying a dog, rescuing from your local animal shelter is a great inexpensive option.  Before you go out hunting, check out this article on dog breeds for every type guy.















X Marks the G-Spot

By Lauren Katulka

We’ve all heard that pleasuring her G-spot is the key to driving her wild, but this magic button is still a mystery for many men. Wonder about this enigmatic part of female anatomy no more! We’ve got all the answers to your burning G-spot questions.

What Is It?

The G-spot, named after Ernst Gräfenberg, the German gynaecologist who discovered it, is a small area of tissue inside the vagina. Stimulating the G-spot can give her powerful orgasms and even make her gush like a porn star!

Where Is It?

The G-spot is a couple inches up the front vaginal wall, between the vagina’s opening and the urethra. You’ll know you’ve found it when you feel a rough, walnut-textured spot.

Doggy-style sex and some sex toys can stimulate the G-spot, but since it’s tucked away it’s easiest to find with your fingers. When she’s lying on her back, slowly insert a finger into her vagina, with your palm facing up. Once it’s inside, curl your finger as if you’re signalling for someone to come over to you or trying to touch her belly button from the inside.

What Does It Like?

The G-spot swells up when she’s aroused, so it’s easiest to find when she’s already turned on. Foreplay is key!

Just as every woman is different, so is every G-spot, so pay attention to her cues. Start slowly and softly. You’re not searching for spare change between your couch cushions! Then try different pressures and speeds as you stroke the G-spot in a rhythmic motion. Lightly pressing on her belly can make the sensations even more intense. Listen to what she says, how she moans, how she breathes, and what her body does to learn whether you’re on the right track.

Now you know all about the G-spot, what are you waiting for? It’s time to put your newfound knowledge into practice!

The Online Guy Who Caught My Eye

Yes, I did promise to tell about my first online date. Why is it so much easier to tell horror stories? I’ve been wrestling with how to tell this story for a week now. I suppose the beginning would be a good start.

After over 150 messages, and a handful of connections back, what caught my attention with this guy was a comment he made on his profile. He wrote, “If your dog sleeps in your bed, I won’t be.”  Witty, Confident, Cute.  Being that I have a 110 lb Doberman who does sleep on my bed, I responded “My 110 lb Dobie or a guy?  That’s a tough one.”  His answer couldn’t have been better, he said “I’m 235 lbs, bigger dog wins.”  What a great frickin’ answer!

Here’s a guy who is clearly very self assured and big! I LOVE THAT! I sent him my number, and we started texting back and forth. He didn’t write long messages, but said enough to keep me wanting more.

I found out that he’s divorced,  lives at the beach and is very into water sports.  He has a boat, is an avid kite surfer, basically loves anything having to do with the ocean. So far, he seems extremely cool.

My home is 3 hours from his his. Distance is a bit of an issue, but what the heck,  it might be fate. (Since he’s into waves, I’m going to refer to him as “Bo” – the name “Bo” means wave).

Bo lives very close to Assateague Island, MD where the wild horses roam free. (Note: Going to Assateague has always been a childhood dream of mine.) After 2 weeks of texting, Bo invited me to visit. Come visit? Me? Me who has never been on one online date, go visit a guy I never met?

At this point I hadn’t even spoke to him on the phone. By the way, girls like to talk on the phone. We like to hear a guy’s voice. I think you can get a good idea of what someone is like from talking on the phone. If he happens to have a sexy voice, forget about it. My partner Elaine said “Tell him to call you.” I did just that, and within the hour, he called. His deep, masculine voice stimulated a feeling inside me that I have not felt in years.

Now, I’m really in trouble.  At this point, I’m considering a road trip.  What do you think? Should I go meet Bo?

Is Her Starbucks card for Ashley Madison?

Many things can cause a person to have an affair. It can range from a momentary lapse in judgment, drugs or alcohol,  addiction, or a plain ole calculated deceit.

I just read that AshleyMadison.com, the premier destination for married dating, affairs, hookups, and fantasy has over 52 million member accounts worldwide since 2002!!  And, did you know that members have the option of purchasing credits by trading in a gift card from places like Starbucks, Home Depot, Target, Best Buy, Walmart and more.  How crazy is that!?!

I know infidelity well.  My father had an affair when I was 16 years old and I regrettably had an affair many years ago. Affairs lead to one thing —-> PAIN!  If you think your partner is cheating or you recently found out they are having an affair, there is nothing more hurtful then going through the fact that you’ve been lied to.  If you are lucky enough to have never been subjected to an affair, my advice is to run if you think a relationship in your life could lead to something you will regret.  Or, if you’re not happy at home, take a break, tell your partner you need some time.  Be honest with your feelings.

The following are 6 different reasons why people cheat:

Self Seeking

This is when a person loves him or her self more than the person they are with. In a self seeking relationship, the person who broke faith basically doesn’t give a crap, or may deem them in some way less important. Basically this person is a narcissist. Self absorption, inability to connect with or care about others, and may seem emotionally hardened.  This person, feel entitled to their affair.


A manipulative person is skillful in influencing or controlling others for sexual gratification or power. This could be the boss who insists on late hours, personal attention, and/or eventually sexual favors in exchange for remaining employed, or for advancement.  Blackmail is not above this person’s grasp.


Infatuation, “puppy love,” or immediate sexual appeal is often based on emotional responses.  Infatuation is often extravagant passion or admiration that may be mistaken for love. A married spouse who is in a day-to-day relationship may mistake the attention of a third party for true love. However, infatuation usually does not last.


All affairs are painful, but the conflicted affair may be one of the hardest to bear. We define this as when someone is in love with one person but committed to another. An example might be a man who is married and has children, but the wife is so involved with the kids, she forgets her husband. He or she finds an intimate connection with someone who appreciates and responds to him or her and an affair begins.  Whatever the scenario, there is no denying the pain these relationships can bring.

Cyber Affair

Also called a virtual affair, this is one in which there is usually no direct sexual contact. It might be between a person and someone online, or it could take the form of phone sex, porn, chat rooms, or even a person who is incarcerated. The emotional involvement might be as strong as a sexual affair, and take up a great deal of time.  Quality time becomes less and less.

Pseudo Justified

In every type of affair, the person who is unfaithful may feel justified in the relationship. However, in this one, they may feel they deserve because the relationship meets a specific need. Some examples might be a wife whose husband travels, a husband whose wife is pregnant, anyone whose partner is unable or unwilling to meet a need in their life. ” If I don’t find it at home, I’ll find it somewhere else.”

For many, an affair is over quickly. It might “scratch an itch.” It might go on for years. Dealing with the aftermath is painful on both sides. Do you confess your wrongdoing? What do you do if you find out your spouse was unfaithful? Is it the first time this has happened, or the tenth? At what point do you leave an unfaithful partner? Does it matter why they were unfaithful?

All these questions and more are reasons why people on both sides might seek relationship coaching. Finding the right path and bringing back positive energy to your life is vital. Whatever side you are on, you can overcome obstacles, regain balance, maintain confidence, and find fulfillment.

As a Professional Life and Relationship coach, I give a 30 free consultation.  If you’re looking for advice, support or just a sounding board, please email me at :  lorraine@girlsunedited.com