First and foremost, do not believe at least 90% of what you read on the Internet! I was taken aback by what is out there on the subject of “how men break the ice talking to women.” I am sure you are aware by now that women are very different than men, so what your buddies or other men are telling you to do online has a huge probability of being poor advice. It takes about 3 minutes for a woman to turn away from a joke you are trying to make or a sarcastic line you are approaching her with, merely by saying, “ If you don’t mind, I am talking to my girlfriend.” So the “Hi my name is David or you can call me ‘tonight’“ or mocking another guy across the room’s outfit as an opener is just not going to cut it.
Breaking the ice is not easy with a cute girl, but I can tell you a few things that have a good chance of working. Because you never know if the girl you are approaching is already in a relationship, having a bad day, or just not in a place where she is open to meeting a guy, there is always a chance you may not get the response you are looking for. So never get discouraged. If you don’t try, you will never know.
Advice tip #1 – Ask a question.
Whether you are in a bar, a coffee shop, the fitness center or supermarket, woman are generally open to questions and happy to answer and help. Asking a question will give her a sense of power that you trust she knows what she is talking about. Women like men who are interesting—men who are open for suggestions and not afraid to ask. Personally, I think it’s hot if a guy asks a question in the supermarket because that shows me he likes to cook, which I find very sexy. But… whatever you do, be polite.
- “Excuse me, can I ask you what kind of wine your drinking? I’m a beer drinker and I’ve read that wine is better for your health.”
- “Excuse me, you wouldn’t happen to know the bartender’s name, would you?”
- “Hi. Excuse me, but do you know how to pick a ripe pomegranate?”
- “Excuse me, do you know where the seasonings are?”
- “Excuse me, is this seat taken? Would you mind if I sit here?”
- “ Excuse me, I was wondering how that spin class was?” or “ What teachers do you like here?”
I could go on and on. Now, if you like, you could switch the beginning of the question to “ Hi, my name is _______. Is this seat taken?” Stating your name is more personal. I think deciding how you address a woman should be made in the moment, being that you will get a different vibe with every woman. Some you will feel a greater sense of ease with, others you won’t.
Advice tip #2 — Compliment
I don’t think there is a man or woman out there that does not like to receive a compliment. Taking your man guard down and complimenting a woman can be a fantastic ice-breaker. The main thing you need to remember is to be genuine and do not—I repeat—do not be sleazy. Do not compliment body parts that are in any way considered sexual. The “ You have great boobs” ;“ Love your ass” comments are deal-breakers! Approaching a woman and complimenting her may seem difficult, but it will get you a smile and maybe more.
“You have beautiful eyes.”
“You have a great smile.”
“I love the color of your hair.”
“Your boots are great.”
“Your dress is beautiful.“
You can even go as far to tell a woman that you think she is incredibly sexy or very beautiful. I cannot guarantee that every woman would be comfortable with the “incredibly sexy” compliment but when a guy told me that, I was super flattered and I definitely took notice of him.
Advice tip #3 — Acknowledge
This may be last but far from least. Saying “ Hello” with a smile is a good start to meeting anyone. Smiling is contagious. Nine times out of ten if you smile at someone, you will get a smile back and look more appealing. The American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry did a study and 96 percent of American adults believe that a smile makes a person more appealing to the opposite sex. Many relationships have developed by starting with a simple smile and greeting.