The best way to understand what women want is to watch and try to understand what other guys do that works. It’s about more than just what a guy says, or how he dresses, how much money he has. Girls look for way more than that – it’s that deeper level you should pay attention to. Here’s an example from my life.
The other night I hooked up with the brother of my best friend from when I was a teenager (let’s call him The Italian). I’m not opposed to hooking up on the first date, but I haven’t seen this guy in 20 years! On my way to meet him, I was thinking, “OMG… what am I doing?” I felt like turning my car around and going home. I thought about canceling the whole date and heading home, but no. If I can’t show a little backbone on a first date, how can I coach a guy to be confident?
So I was at the bar, drinking a glass of champagne, anxiously awaiting my date’s arrival. Right on time, The Italian walks in. He’s very tall, bald, and solidly built – my best friend’s brother all grown up. I was speechless, but it wasn’t his looks that took my voice away. He was so confident, so sure of himself, that I swear my heart skipped. From the second he walked into the room, it was like he owned the place. He was in total control and I loved it! I got that sweet-sick feeling in my stomach. This is what girls talk about when they reminisce about their best guys – the feeling of being turned on. I’m not going to go into detail, but we had an incredible night.
There’s something about a guy with inner strength. It’s the ultimate turn-on. It’s not about how you look, how much money you have, what title comes before or after your name – it’s how you show up.